14 Potent Aphrodisiac Essential Oils for your Love life, Romance, Sex & Libido

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Lovely intimacy, deep romance, and passionate sexuality.

Yes! It’s the best, right?

Every person longs for and deserves to have a passionate, sensuous and fulfilling sex life. We all want to have invigorated libidos, sensual cuddling, snuggling and pillow talk. Every bedroom deserves that extra little boost of stimulation and invigoration to the senses that nourish any partnership.

Luckily for us, we have essential oils!

In this post, we’ll talk about the most renowned essential oils with aphrodisiac qualities for love, sex, and libido.

Additionally, if you’re left thinking, well – I need a partner to do all this! Essential oils can help you find to find a willing partner (more on that later).

But no doubt, using them in the bedroom can certainly enhance your sexual experience!

When it comes to sensuality essential oils have a lot to offer.

  • There are cooling oils to calm the nervous system
  • Warming oils to excite and increase libido
  • Oils that help open up emotions and increase communication
  • Oils that promote a single-minded sense of passion, concentration, and sexual fervor

Scent, along with touch, play a big role in intimacy. And the two invite one another… when there’s exposure to sensual scents the mood for touch comes naturally and quite readily!

Now sit back, grab a drink and get ready to dive into the more sensual realms of essential oils and aromatherapy.

14 Essential oils for Love Making, Sex Drive & Libido

Below you’ll learn about fourteen oils that I’ve singled out for their use in the bedroom.

Not every oil will resonate with you, of course.

Since we are working with aromatherapy here and the general sense of smell (which is a very personal thing) you’re not likely to experience smells in the same way as anyone else.

Of course, there are oils that are generally well received for use in the sexual realm for their propensity to incite desirable emotions.

But you might have an aversion to an oil for any number of reasons, and that’s okay.

This post gives you a variety of options for oils to use and ways to use them. You’ll have to experiment and find what works for you (and your partner)!

Note that all of the oils below work great in an aromatherapy diffuser!

1.) Roserose

Rose – it’s hard to find a more romantic oil. It is often called the essential oil of love. It helps open the heart center to receive love and strength. It helps a person to love oneself and reduce feelings of fear and unworthiness.

Rose stirs desire, enhances self-esteem and confidence.

It lifts depressive states, remedies grief, detoxes and purifies the blood.

It improves digestion, improves circulation, increases semen production. It improves uterine function and combats stress & nervous tension.

Rose also has hormonal benefits that support menstruation, reduces the severity of PMS. It can help delay the onset of menopause and prevent menopausal symptoms. It prevents/treats amenorrhea (the absence of menstruation). It also limits/treats Dysmenorrhea (painful menstruation) by reducing spasms in the uterus.


Purchase Rose Essential Oil Here.


2.) Ylang Ylang

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Ylang-Ylang relaxes, slows a racing heart, and calms in times of stress. It decreases blood pressure and boosts mood.
Ylang-Ylang works on the emotions. It is a well-known aphrodisiac as well as a support in times of bereavement. It doesn’t matter the situation. Ylang-Ylang will provide what you need if you are experiencing emotional hyper-arousal or upset.
It prevents both Tachycardia (rapid heartbeat) and Hyperpnea (fast, shallow breathing). This soothes the emotions of anxiety, anger, worry, and fear – and gets you in the mood for some loving! Its calming effects are particularly favored for deeper and more profound sexual experiences.


Purchase Ylang-ylang Essential Oil Here.


3.) Sandalwood


Sandalwood is one of the oldest known perfume materials. It’s been utilized for at least 4,000 years.

Sandalwood is a potent tension reliever, relaxes muscles and calms blood pressure.

In India, it is often combined with rose essential oil in the famous scent Aytar

The smell alone is enough to relieve a day worth of stress and tension (for me at least).

Purchase Sandalwood Essential Oil Here.

4.) Rosewood


Rosewood has an alluring aroma and provides a calming effect on the mind.

It instills feelings of confidence and self-esteem.

Rosewood is a mood lifter – known to cut through depression and produce a positive outlook on life. It’s renowned for instilling positive feels of hope and optimism.

Great emotions to have to boost the sexual energy in the room!

Purchase Rosewood Essential Oil Here.

5.) Cardamom

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Cardamom has a long history as a domestic spice in India and Middle Eastern countries. It has been treasured there for centuries.

Cardamom is an enjoyable and medicinal oil. It’s been a part of traditional Chinese and Indian medicine for over 3000 years.

Cardamom has a favorable scent. I personally love it as an aromatic and flavorful spice.

It is calming to the nervous system, relieves mental fatigue and nervous strain.

Purchase Cardamom Essential Oil Here.

6.) Clary sage

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Clary sage boasts some great benefits. It’s deeply relaxing, promotes euphoria, feelings of well being. And most importantly for us, it can act as a powerful aphrodisiac.

If you’re looking for some creativity in the bedroom clary sage can help. It’s known to boost creativity by supporting focus in the mind. It helps us see clearly and puts things into perspective. This paves the way for inspirational thoughts. Like exploring sexually!

Clary sage is also a valuable hormone balancing oil. It helps to relieve symptoms of PMS, eases menstrual cramps and alleviates menopausal symptoms.

Purchase Clary Sage Essential Oil Here.

7.) Cedarwood


Cedarwood has a warming and gentle action on the mind and body.

It also has an amazing scent – perhaps my personal favorite. It’s a great option for massage as it alleviates stress and muscular tension.

Purchase Cedarwood Essential Oil Here.

8.) NeroliFiori d'arancio

Neroli, also known as orange blossom, helps to uplift the mind, calm the senses. It has been used for centuries as a natural aphrodisiac in many countries.

It instills confidence and dispels feelings of anger. It is so soothing to the heart that it is often used in cases of panic attacks.

Purchase Neroli Essential Oil Here.

9.) Patchouli


Patchouli oil is a mood uplifter. It brings relief to stress-related tensions. It eases anxiety and promotes an overall sense of well being. Patchouli also has a positive effect on the nervous system. It brings rest to frigidity, nervous tension, and stress-related complaints.

Purchase Patchouli Essential Oil Here.

10.) Jasmine

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Jasmine has an amazing scent, aphrodisiac qualities and provides a balancing effect on the nervous system.

Jasmine works on an emotional level. It helps calm frayed nerves and remedies depression, nervous exhaustion, and stress-related conditions.

It produces feelings of optimism, confidence, and euphoria. It’s most useful in cases of apathy, indifference or listlessness. Use it to get the passion flowing!

Purchase Jasmine Essential Oil Here.

11.) Lavender

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Lavender, as many of you know, is a fantastic all-around healer and promoter of peace, calm and relaxed feelings. Its fragrance soothes and sets the mood for both calm and passion.

A great way to introduce lavender oil into your bedroom plans is to mix 2 drops with 1/2 teaspoon of carrier oil and massage over the heart area.

Purchase Lavender Essential Oil Here.

13.) Geranium


Geranium is a fragrant oil that balances the emotions and gets the blood flowing!

It has a balancing effect on hormones and increases circulation by enlarging capillaries.

Tip: to clear the room of negative energies and bring balance to your space diffuse 5 drops of the oil.

Purchase Geranium Essential Oil Here.

14.) Cinnamon


Cinnamon oil is sure to bring some warmth and spice into the relationship.

Feeling sluggish? Use cinnamon if you’re looking to add a stimulating quality to your sexual life.

It’s great for the skin, circulation and nervous system as well.

Purchase Cinnamon Essential Oil Here.

Relaxing Essential Oil Based Sexual Massage Oil Recommendations

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Starting out a lovemaking session with a relaxing essential oil massage can really set the mood.

It helps shake off the mundane, daily stress-filled energy that we so often carry into the bedroom.

The world we live in today doesn’t put enough importance on relaxation. In fact, many of us knowingly strive and strain and run ourselves thin, day in and day out.

Our emphasis on fast-paced, stressful lifestyles often carries over into the bedroom, too.

One of the best ways to improve sex and intimacy is to learn to relax. I don’t necessarily mean take it slow… you can have a relaxed passion that’s breathtakingly intense. Focus on being slow and sensuous in the beginning stages of arousal can greatly enhance the peaks that you’ll encounter later.

And it will help you invite in the intense, passionate energy into your lovemaking later – without overstraining your nerves.

Below you’ll find some essential oils that are recommended for your sensual massage.

People carry many insecurities in to the bedroom. This results in a lot of tension and communication issues. I’ve chosen oils that are specifically tailored to creating ease in individuals who have emotional hangups, whether around sex or not.

The massage itself is calming to the nervous system, which makes it great for bonding and as a prerequisite to sex.

When you add some of the oils listed above into the mix, you’re sure to enhance your evening!

Making your massage oil

It’s recommended for a full body massage oil blend that you use around 50 drops of EOs per 4 ounces of carrier oil

(argan, coconut, sesame, sweet almond, jojoba, grapeseed, macadamia)

Essential oils for erectile dysfunction, Impotence, and General Male Arousal

Sexual disorders like impotency, ED (erectile dysfunction) and delayed ejaculation (DE) are an increasingly common complaint in modern relationships.

Why is this so?

There can be a variety of causal factors.

Exhaustion can play a role. Poor diet as well. There’s also growing speculation that online pornography, which is highly stimulating, can affect a man’s arousal patterns and ability to get hard in real life.

Many male minds have become oversaturated with highly stimulating pornographic images. As a result, their sex organs and glands can get depleted through excessive ejaculation. For ED the idea being that when the mind is tuned to extreme sexual situations a man has a harder time getting an erection through real sex. The loss of sexual fluids via frequent ejaculation can also play a role, as it depleted the energy and makes it harder to perform.

There’s a term for the phenomenon, called PIED (porn-induced erectile dysfunction). If you are a man or are intimate with one, and ED a problem in an otherwise healthy body, you might consider reading up on PIED.

With that forewarning, use of pornography might not be the case in your partnership.

Sometimes all it takes high levels of stress in a man’s life (work stress, money concerns) – along with high expectations for sexual performance can cause impotence / ED to develop.

The best thing to do when confronting ED in men is to take as much stress out of the equation when it comes to being intimate / having sex. Instead of focusing exclusively on sex, a transition to loving touch and relaxed intimacy.

The following blend has been formulated specifically for reducing instances of ED.

Affectionate touch blend



  1. In a 5mL glass bottle combine your essential oils
  2. Shake to blend

Ways to use your blend:

Below you’ll find a variety of ways to use this blend.

In the bath


  • Fill the tub with warm water
  • While filling combine 1 tsp milk and 4-6 drops of your Affection touch blend in a non-reactive bowl
  • Add mixture to the tub and agitate to disperse the oils
  • Soak in the bath for 30 minutes (one or both of you)
  • Massage any floating droplets into yours (or each other’s) skin

Sensual massage


  • In a small non-reactive bowl combine 4 tsp (20 mL) grapeseed or sweet almond oil and 8 drops Affection touch blend
  • Mix ingredients well
  • Take turns using the massage oil to massage each other’s bodies


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Essential oils can increase sensual and sexual energy, that’s for sure.

But they shouldn’t be relied upon in the case of a faltering sexual dynamic or personal sexual issues.

Sex, attraction, and arousal are complex, after all.

  • If you’re exhausted from your lifestyle, you’ll need to slow down to gather enough energy to fully enjoy sex.
  • If you’ve experienced trauma (of a sexual nature or not) and find yourself attracting the wrong kind of sexual energy into your life, you’ll want to seek focused healing.
  • If you grew up with sexual shame and your energy is restricted, leaving you unable to let go sexually/orgasmically, you’ll want to seek focused healing.

Essential oils can offer a whole lot of new fun into the bedroom, but it’s important to remember that sexual energy is very complex.

If you want to have the best sex life possible, the sex life that you deserve, essential oils should only make up a part of your search for sexual wholeness.

Thanks for reading and continue to enjoy your sexy selves!

If you have any comments, questions or recommendations of your own please let us know in the comment section below!

27 thoughts on “14 Potent Aphrodisiac Essential Oils for your Love life, Romance, Sex & Libido”

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    Is the Affectionate Touch Blend safe to use in a massage w/someone needing high blood pressure medicine?

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        Is there an essential oil that can replace Sandalwood in the Affectionate Touch Blend that is less expensive? Thanks!

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    With the blends you stated, aphrodisiac, anxiety, nervous exhaustion, etc…. how many drops of each do you put in? I am wondering more so about the aphrodisiac blend. 🙂

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    So, on a real personal level, I was looking into something I saw advertised called Viarexin. It claims it’s made with all natural ingredients that have been used for centuries for increasing libidos , longer erreactions and even increases size. In short, no pun intended, just makes you larger and last longer. Is there no essential oil that would do that? Is that Viarexin just a scam?
    I would like your thoughts on that. Any recommendations or suggestions would be appreciated

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    I found the article very informative and I thank you for the information. Hopefully, my husband will thank you as well! 😉

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    Hi 🙂 Do you think a blend of Geranium, Vetiver, Clary sage, and Ylang ylang would smell good? I would use the correct blending factors of course. 🙂

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    Hi I want to make my own perfume. I want to be sensual, tropical but someting that will attract the opposite sex. I want it to be wonderful. Not to fruity.

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    Hello there, I really appreciated this article and its mindfulness on the complex, personal nature of a healthy sex life.
    I am finding that something you mentioned at the end of your article stuck out to me:
    “If you grew up with sexual shame and your energy is restricted, leaving you unable to let go sexually/orgasmically, you’ll want to seek focused healing.”
    That’s really me. I have had problems with frigidity for most of my married life, and I really want to improve on this. My husband is loving and committed, he just doesn’t know how to help me.
    Do you know any good articles, or resources on how to heal something so ingrained in the fabric of my soul? I have been doing some work with homeopathy, and I’m learning that I had a lot of shame growing up, which causes tension, restriction, and stiffness in my body and my social interactions.
    Just wondering if you have any further thoughts on this.
    I do see a counselor, but I’m not sure she is the right person to talk to about all this. She’s very straight-laced and logical, which is somewhat at odds with me. I’m learning that I’m more the artistic, a little out there type, interested in alternative medicine, and so on.
    Thank you for your time.

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      Hi Joy. Thank you for your detailed post. I’m sorry for your suffering. I would recommend looking into the book In an Unspoken voice by Peter Levine as well as the TRE (Trauma Release Exercises).

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    Aromatherapists do not recommend using milk as a carrier in the bath. Someone using EOs in the bath should mix with a carrier oil such as fco, almond, hemp, etc.

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      Thanks for the comment Carol. That recipe comes straight from Valerie Ann Worwood. She’s an esteemed aromatherapist, but the book is a bit older, and perhaps she wouldn’t recommend this recipe anymore. I will look into it.

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