14 Potent Aphrodisiac Essential Oils for your Love life, Romance, Sex & Libido


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Deep intimacy, enveloping romance, and passionate sexuality. It’s the best, right?

Every person longs to have a passionate, sensuous and fulfilling sex life. We all want sensual cuddling, invigorated libidos, snuggling and pillow talk.

And every bedroom deserves that extra little boost of stimulation and invigoration to the senses that nourish any partnership.

Luckily for us, we have essential oils!

In this post, we’ll talk about the most renowned essential oils with aphrodisiac qualities for love, sex, and libido.

By the end you might be left thinking – great, but I need a partner to do all this with! Well, essential oils can also help you find find a willing partner (read on until the end to learn more).

When it comes to sensuality, the wide variety of thereauptic plant volatile oils means aromatherapy can provide us with a lot:

  • There are cooling oils to calm the nervous system
  • Warming oils to excite and increase libido
  • Oils that help open up emotions and increase communication
  • Oils that promote a single-minded sense of passion, concentration, and sexual fervor

Related: How to Safely inhale Essential Oils

Scent, along with touch, play a big role in intimacy. And the two provoke one another… when there’s exposure to sensual scents, the mood for touch comes naturally and quite readily!

Now sit back, grab a drink and get ready to dive into the more sensual realms of essential oils and aromatherapy.

14 Essential oils for Love Making, Sex Drive & Libido

Below you’ll learn about fourteen oils that I’ve singled out for their use in the bedroom.

Not every oil will resonate with you, of course.

Since we are working with aromatherapy here, and the general sense of smell (which is a very personal thing), you’re not likely to experience smells in the same way as anyone else.

Of course, there are some oils that are generally well-received for use in the bedroom because of their propensity to incite desirable emotions. But still, you might have an aversion to an oil for any number of reasons, and that’s okay!

Related: 12 Essential Oils for Sleep: Create a Relaxing Bedtime Routine

This post gives you a variety of options for oils and many ways to use them. You’ll have to experiment and find what works for you (and your partner)!

(Note that all of the oils below work great in an aromatherapy diffuser!)

1.) Roserose


Rose – it’s hard to find a more romantic oil than this one. Rose is considered by many the essential oil of love.

Rose helps to open the heart center so it can receive love and strength in partnership. Internally, rose helps us to love our self and reduce feelings of fear and unworthiness.

Rose stirs desire, enhances self-esteem and confidence. It lifts depressive states, remedies grief, detoxes and purifies the blood.

Related: 14 Uplifting Essential Oils for Energy & Wakefulness

It improves digestion, improves circulation, increases semen production. It improves uterine function and combats stress & nervous tension.

Rose also has hormonal benefits that support menstruation, reduces the severity of PMS. It can help delay the onset of menopause and prevent menopausal symptoms. ROse prevents/treats amenorrhea (the absence of menstruation). It also limits/treats Dysmenorrhea (painful menstruation) by reducing spasms in the uterus.

You can Purchase Rose Essential Oil Here.

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Ylang-ylang relaxes and slows a racing heart. It’s wonderfully calming in times of stress. Ylang-Ylang also decreases blood pressure and boosts mood.
Ylang-Ylang works on the emotions. It is a well-known aphrodisiac as well as a support in times of bereavement. It doesn’t matter the situation; lang-Ylang will provide what you need if you are experiencing emotional hyper-arousal or upset.
Ylang-ylang prevents both Tachycardia (rapid heartbeat) and Hyperpnea (fast, shallow breathing). It soothes the emotions of anxiety, anger, worry, and fear – and gets you in the mood for some loving! Its calming effects are particularly favored for deeper and more profound sexual experiences.

Purchase Ylang-ylang Essential Oil Here

3.) Sandalwood


Sandalwood is one of the oldest known perfume materials. In India, it is often combined with rose essential oil in the famous scent Aytar. It’s been utilized there for at least 4,000 years!

Sandalwood is a potent tension reliever, relaxes muscles and calms blood pressure. The smell alone is enough to relieve a day worth of stress and tension.

Purchase Sandalwood Essential Oil Here.

4.) Rosewood


Rosewood has an alluring aroma and provides a calming and grounding, (yet also stimulating), effect on the mind.

Rosewood instills feelings of confidence and self-esteem. It is a mood lifter – known to cut through depression and produce a positive outlook on life. Rosewood is renowned for instilling positive feels of hope and optimism. Great emotions to have to boost the sexual energy in the room!

Purchase Rosewood Essential Oil Here.

5.) Cardamom

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Cardamom has a long history as a domestic spice in India and Middle Eastern countries. It has been treasured there for centuries. It’s also been a part of traditional Chinese medicine for over 3000 years.

Cardamom is a sensual, medicinal oil. Cardamom has a favorable scent. I personally love it as a culinary spice (masala chai, yes!) and as an aromatic, sensual mood-inducing oil.

It’s calming to the nervous system, relieves mental fatigue and nervous strain. Great for helping you relax into an intimate mental space.

Purchase Cardamom Essential Oil Here.

6.) Clary sage

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Clary sage boasts some great benefits. It’s deeply relaxing, promotes euphoria, feelings of well being. And, most importantly for us, it can act as a powerful aphrodisiac.

If you’re looking for some creativity in the bedroom, clary sage can help. It’s known to boost creativity by supporting calm focus, which can help us ground into the moment to really savor our sensations and those of our partner. This calm clarity also paves the way for inspirational thoughts, like exploring new levels of our sexuality!

Clary sage is also a valuable hormone balancing oil. It helps to relieve symptoms of PMS, eases menstrual cramps and alleviates menopausal symptoms.

Purchase Clary Sage Essential Oil Here.

7.) Cedarwood


Cedarwood has a grounding, warming, and gentle effect on the mind and body.

It also has an amazing scent – it is one of my personal favorites. It’s a great option for sensual massage as it alleviates stress and muscular tension.

Purchase Cedarwood Essential Oil Here.

8.) NeroliFiori d'arancio

Neroli, also known as orange blossom, helps to uplift the mind and calm the senses. It has been used for centuries as a natural aphrodisiac in many countries.

Neroli instills confidence and dispels feelings of anger. Because it is so soothing to the heart, it is frequently used in cases of panic attacks.

Purchase Neroli Essential Oil Here.

9.) Patchouli


Patchouli oil is a mood uplifter and sensual relaxant. Patchouli brings relief to stress-related tensions, eases anxiety and promotes an overall sense of well being.

Patchouli also has a positive effect on the nervous system. It brings rest to frigidity, nervous tension, and stress-related complaints.

Purchase Patchouli Essential Oil Here.

10.) Jasmine

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Jasmine has an amazing scent, numerous aphrodisiac qualities, and provides a balancing effect on the nervous system.

Jasmine works effectively on an emotional level. It helps calm frayed nerves and remedies depression, nervous exhaustion, and stress-related conditions.

Jasmine produces feelings of optimism, confidence, and euphoria. It’s most useful in cases of apathy, indifference or listlessness. Use it to get the passion flowing!

Purchase Jasmine Essential Oil Here.

11.) Lavender

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Lavender, as many of you know, is a fantastic all-around healer and promoter of peace, calm and relaxed feelings. Its fragrance soothes and sets the mood for both calm and passion.

A great way to introduce lavender oil into your bedroom plans is to mix 2 drops with 1/2 teaspoon of carrier oil and massage over the heart area.

Purchase Lavender Essential Oil Here.

13.) Geranium


Geranium is a fragrant oil that balances the emotions and gets the blood flowing!

It has a balancing effect on hormones and increases circulation by enlarging capillaries.

Tip: to clear the room of negative energies and bring balance to your space diffuse 5 drops of the oil.

Purchase Geranium Essential Oil Here.

14.) Cinnamon


Cinnamon oil is sure to bring some warmth and spice into the relationship.

Feeling sluggish? Use cinnamon if you’re looking to add a stimulating quality to your sexual life.

It’s great for the skin, circulation and nervous system as well. So grab your partner, coconut carrier oil with cinnamon, and massage away all the stresses of the outside world.

Purchase Cinnamon Essential Oil Here.

Relaxing Essential Oil Based Sexual Massage Oil Recommendations

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Starting out a lovemaking session with a relaxing essential oil massage can really set the mood.

It helps shake off the mundane, daily stress-filled energies that we so often carry with us into the bedroom.

The world we live in today doesn’t put enough importance on relaxation. In fact, many of us knowingly strive and strain and run ourselves thin, day in and day out.

Related: 7 Essential Oils for Back Pain & Sciatica

One of the best ways to improve sex and intimacy is to learn to relax. I don’t necessarily mean take it slow… you can have a relaxed passion that’s breathtakingly intense, too.

Focus on being slow and sensuous in the beginning stages of arousal can greatly enhance the peaks that you’ll encounter later. It will help you invite in the intense, passionate energy into your lovemaking later – without overstraining your nerves.

Below you’ll find some essential oils that are recommended for your sensual massage.

People carry many insecurities in to the bedroom. This results in a lot of tension and communication issues. I’ve chosen oils that are specifically tailored to creating ease in individuals who have emotional hangups, whether around sex or not.

The massage itself is calming to the nervous system, which makes it great for bonding and as a prerequisite to sex.

When you add some of the oils listed above into the mix, you’re sure to enhance your evening!

Making your massage oil

It’s recommended for a full body massage oil blend that you use around 50 drops of EOs per 4 ounces of carrier oil

(argan, coconut, sesame, sweet almond, jojoba, grapeseed, macadamia)

Essential oils for erectile dysfunction, Impotence, and General Male Arousal

Sexual disorders like impotency, ED (erectile dysfunction) and delayed ejaculation (DE) are an increasingly common complaint in modern relationships.

Why is this so?

As with most things, this is due to a variety of factors.

Exhaustion can play a role. Poor diet, as well.

There’s also the growing speculation that online pornography, which is highly stimulating and leads to frequent, draining, ejaculations, can affect a man’s arousal patterns and ability (or inability) to get an erection with a real-life partner.

Related: 15 Essential Oils for Anxiety & Stress Reduction

Many male minds have become oversaturated with highly stimulating pornographic images. As a result, their sex organs and glands can get depleted through excessive ejaculation.

There’s an idea that when the mind is tuned to extreme sexual situations on a screen, a man has a harder time getting an erection through real sex. The loss of sexual fluids via frequent ejaculation can also play a role, as it depleted the energy and makes it harder to perform.

There’s a term for the phenomenon, called PIED (porn-induced erectile dysfunction). If you are a man or are intimate with one, and ED a problem in an otherwise healthy body, you might consider reading up on PIED.

Pornography aside, sometimes all it takes high levels of stress in a man’s life (work stress, money concerns) along with high expectations for sexual performance can cause impotence or ED to develop.

The best thing to do when confronting ED in men is to take as much stress out of the equation when it comes to being intimate or having sex. Instead of focusing exclusively on sex, try a transition to loving touch and relaxed intimacy.

The following blend has been formulated specifically for reducing instances of ED.

Affectionate touch blend



  1. In a 5mL glass bottle combine your essential oils
  2. Shake to blend

Ways to use your blend:

Below you’ll find a variety of ways to use this blend.

In the bath


  • Fill the tub with warm water
  • While filling combine 1 tsp milk and 4-6 drops of your Affection touch blend in a non-reactive bowl
  • Add mixture to the tub and agitate to disperse the oils
  • Soak in the bath for 30 minutes (one or both of you)
  • Massage any floating droplets into yours (or each other’s) skin

Sensual massage


  • In a small non-reactive bowl combine 4 tsp (20 mL) grapeseed or sweet almond oil and 8 drops Affection touch blend
  • Mix ingredients well
  • Take turns using the massage oil to massage each other’s bodies


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Essential oils can increase sensual and sexual energy, that’s for sure. But they shouldn’t be relied upon in the case of a faltering sexual dynamic or personal sexual issues.

Sex, attraction, and arousal are complex, after all.

  • If you’re exhausted from your lifestyle, you’ll need to slow down to gather enough energy to fully enjoy sex.
  • If you’ve experienced trauma (of a sexual nature or not) and find yourself attracting the wrong kind of sexual energy into your life, you’ll want to seek focused healing.
  • If you grew up with sexual shame and your energy is restricted, leaving you unable to let go sexually/orgasmically, you’ll want to seek focused healing.

Related: 9 Top Essential Oils for Allergies

Essential oils can offer a whole lot of new fun into the bedroom, but it’s important to remember that sexual energy is very complex.

If you want to have the best sex life possible, the sex life that you deserve, essential oils should only make up a portion of your search for sexual wholeness.

Thanks for reading and continue to enjoy your sexy selves!

If you have any comments, questions or recommendations of your own please let us know in the comment section below!

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27 thoughts on “14 Potent Aphrodisiac Essential Oils for your Love life, Romance, Sex & Libido”

  1. Is the Affectionate Touch Blend safe to use in a massage w/someone needing high blood pressure medicine?

      1. Mary Keifer

        Is there an essential oil that can replace Sandalwood in the Affectionate Touch Blend that is less expensive? Thanks!

        1. Sandalwood’s copycat is equal parts of benzoin and cedarwood

  2. Hi,
    With the blends you stated, aphrodisiac, anxiety, nervous exhaustion, etc…. how many drops of each do you put in? I am wondering more so about the aphrodisiac blend. 🙂

  3. Joel coleman

    Your post is useful. I think ginger essential is good for increasing libido and sexual desires.

  4. So, on a real personal level, I was looking into something I saw advertised called Viarexin. It claims it’s made with all natural ingredients that have been used for centuries for increasing libidos , longer erreactions and even increases size. In short, no pun intended, just makes you larger and last longer. Is there no essential oil that would do that? Is that Viarexin just a scam?
    I would like your thoughts on that. Any recommendations or suggestions would be appreciated

    1. Hi Larry, have you tried a penis pump? Maybe it will help?

  5. I found the article very informative and I thank you for the information. Hopefully, my husband will thank you as well! 😉

  6. What essential oil blends can be used in massage to increase libido

    1. What was that article hon.. I might be interested in that x

  7. Is it safe to combine all the ingredients in a dark colored bottle and shelve it until needed?

    1. you could do it yourself, but no guarantees it would be an enjoyable combination!

  8. Awesome collection.. Some really inspiring, colorful designs!!

  9. Hi 🙂 Do you think a blend of Geranium, Vetiver, Clary sage, and Ylang ylang would smell good? I would use the correct blending factors of course. 🙂

  10. Dorothy Moore

    Hi I want to make my own perfume. I want to be sensual, tropical but someting that will attract the opposite sex. I want it to be wonderful. Not to fruity.

  11. Hello there, I really appreciated this article and its mindfulness on the complex, personal nature of a healthy sex life.
    I am finding that something you mentioned at the end of your article stuck out to me:
    “If you grew up with sexual shame and your energy is restricted, leaving you unable to let go sexually/orgasmically, you’ll want to seek focused healing.”
    That’s really me. I have had problems with frigidity for most of my married life, and I really want to improve on this. My husband is loving and committed, he just doesn’t know how to help me.
    Do you know any good articles, or resources on how to heal something so ingrained in the fabric of my soul? I have been doing some work with homeopathy, and I’m learning that I had a lot of shame growing up, which causes tension, restriction, and stiffness in my body and my social interactions.
    Just wondering if you have any further thoughts on this.
    I do see a counselor, but I’m not sure she is the right person to talk to about all this. She’s very straight-laced and logical, which is somewhat at odds with me. I’m learning that I’m more the artistic, a little out there type, interested in alternative medicine, and so on.
    Thank you for your time.

    1. Hi Joy. Thank you for your detailed post. I’m sorry for your suffering. I would recommend looking into the book In an Unspoken voice by Peter Levine as well as the TRE (Trauma Release Exercises).

  12. Carol Jeanne

    Aromatherapists do not recommend using milk as a carrier in the bath. Someone using EOs in the bath should mix with a carrier oil such as fco, almond, hemp, etc.

    1. Thanks for the comment Carol. That recipe comes straight from Valerie Ann Worwood. She’s an esteemed aromatherapist, but the book is a bit older, and perhaps she wouldn’t recommend this recipe anymore. I will look into it.

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